Discipleship Toolbox
Articles
Holding Hands, Holding Hearts Summary
Holding Hands, Holding Hearts is an excellent book teaching the Biblical principles related to dating. Brian Sayers has written this 10 page summary of Philip’s book.
Articles
You Talk to Yourself
Tripp explains the importance of understanding how your own thinking influences your life and your heart. You listen to yourself more than anyone else. What are you telling yourself?
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Wait or Date - Student/Parent Assessment
Helpful for evaluating if someone is ready for dating or not. Use with teens or young adults deciding if they should date. Note: recommend not using Joshua Harris book listed here.
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Tracking the Way Down
Taken from Quieting a Noisy Soul, describes how people go down through unbelief to anxiety or anger and eventually despair. Great teaching tool.
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The Three Trees - How People Change
Illustration from the book How People Change. This diagram is the basis of the other tools created from the three trees.
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The Three Trees Detailed Roadmap
Rich counseling or discipleship tool that teaches people how to put off bad fruit/root and to put on good fruit and roots in response to the situations of life through the gospel.
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Three Trees Counseling Roadmap
Shows the relationship between a situation, good fruit and root, bad fruit and root, and the solution of the gospel. Helpful teaching chart and worksheet to use with counselee.
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The Process of Biblical Change - Y Chart Filled in
Helps people to understand how people grow and change and the relationship between the heart and choices. This one has the blanks filled in.
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The Process of Biblical Change - Y Chart with blanks
To give to a counselee or discipleship partner or mentee to help them understand the process of change and the relationship between the heart and worship and thinking and choices.
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The Cycle of Captivity
Describes the cycle of captivity and enslavement to sin and how to be free from enslavement to sin through the gospel.
Articles
The Circle of Responsibility Diagram and How To Use It
Explains the concern versus responsibility diagram and how to use it. Very helpful in helping anxious or overreaching people to trust God.
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Study Guide for Finally Free
To use with Finally Free by Heath Lambert. Study guide with questions to discuss as you help someone overcome lust, pornography or any other sin using Lambert’s book.
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Stabilizing Truths for a Noisy Soul with Stop/Think Cards
10 stabilizing truths - God’s attributes and promises to remember when you are anxious, depressed, angry, or tempted or facing any other situation. Includes Stop/Think card instructions.
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Stabilizing Truths for a Noisy Soul
Gives 10 stabilizing truths for any Christian to help them trust God in the face of anxiety, depression, temptation, anger, or any other situation.
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Renewing a Thought Worksheet
Worksheet to give to a counselee or discipleship partner to help them learn how to renew their thinking. Helpful for any sin struggle, any issue someone is facing.
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Put-off, Put-on Dynamic
Great worksheet to give to counselee or discipleship partner to help them think through how to put off sin and put on obedience to Christ.
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Progressive Sanctification Diagram
Describes the process of progressive sanctification in a diagram. Helpful teaching tool to show someone how to grow and change. Shows how different aspects of growth a related.
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Pleasing God Bible Study
Gives passages to look up regarding pleasing God and questions to discuss. Good homework assignment for counselee or discipleship partner.
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Marriage and Roles Shepherding Tool
Describes the Biblical model for marriage and the husband’s role and the role of the wife. Great tool to use for marriage counseling or premarital counseling.
Articles
Letter to an Alcoholic
Helpful article for anyone helping an alcoholic or someone who deals with the life dominating sin of drunkenness. Explains the process of becoming enslaved/addicted to alcohol.
Documents
Lessons - Arrow & Goal in Life
Shows how thinking, actions and feelings work together and how our goal in life should be to please God through our thinking, decisions and emotions.
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How To Incite Others To Grow
Describes the process of growth through putting off and putting on and the way down Y chart. Great tool for teaching people how to put off sin, be renewed and put on obedience to Christ.
Articles
How Does Sanctification Work
Powlison describes the different means of grace that God uses to sanctify people. Shows the variety of means we should pursue using to help each other to grow and change.
Documents
Heart Journal
This is a discipleship or counseling tool to give to someone to evaluate a situation, what they did, what they were thinking and feeling, what the Bible says, & what they should think and do next time
Podcasts
Heart and Habits
Podcast discussing book heart and habits and the principle of how God uses habits to shape our hearts and our worship. Helpful for discipleship and counseling and growth and change.
Documents
Gospel Treason Study Guide
To use with the book Gospel Treason by Brad Bigney. Study guide, questions to accompany each chapter of the book uncovering idols of the heart and how we can grow and change through renewed worship.
Articles
Five Questions I Wished My Accountability Partner Would Ask Me
Questions to ask your accountability partner to deepen your relationship. Great for any discipleship relationship.
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Counseling and Our Union With Christ
Tiffe describes how union with Christ is a key principle to teach when helping anyone in a counseling or discipleship setting. Uses Romans 6 to teach this important truth.
Documents
Concern or Responsibility
Illustration of concern versus responsibility paradigm. What is our concern, but not our responsibility? How can we tell the difference between concern and responsibility?
Documents
Arrow Diagram with Target
Describes the goal in life of pleasing God and the role of thinking, actions and emotions in all of life. Helpful tool for counseling or discipling anyone. Shows relationship between mind, heart, will
Documents
The Anger Spectrum
Document picturing the different manifestations of anger.
Articles
Is “Addiction” Rooted in a Disease, Demon, or Decision?
Shaw helps us to see the source of “addiction” or life dominating sin according to the Bible. He shows that alcoholism or drug addiction or porn addiction are rooted in decisions to worship idols.
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Addiction
Describes what addiction is through studying Bible passages. Identifies the root of addiction action steps to take to repent of life dominating sin.
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Addiction Evaluation
Great inventory of questions to help understand and evaluate addiction/life dominating sin. Helpful for the alcoholic or drug addict or porn addict or anyone enslaved in sin to understand their sin.
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15 Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship
Gives 15 things to look for in an abusive relationship. Helps you diagnose that a relationship is abusive.
Articles
7 Things Not To Say To An Anxious Friend
Article describes how to counsel someone who is anxious, and how not to counsel them. Principles for helping people overcome anxiety.
Documents
Filtering My Thoughts
Applies Philippians 4:8-9 to your thought life. Great tool to use with anyone struggling with their thinking, anxiety, anger, depression, lust, bitterness, or any other sin struggle.
Articles
The Unrepenting Repenter
How can you identify true repentance from false repentance? What does it look like to profess faith without possessing faith, to feign repentance without truly repenting? Evaluate if one is saved.
Documents
Gospel - What is a Christian?
Explains the gospel. Defines what a Christian is. Good document to give to someone you are meeting with to help them understand what it means to truly be a Christian.
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Gospel - True or False
How can you know if someone is truly saved? How can you help them discern if they are truly born again? Good resource for discipling or counseling to discern if someone is truly saved. Gospel sharing
Books
The Liberating Truth of Romans 6: Breaking Free From Sinful Habits, Thoughts, and Tendencies
Booklet giving help in overcoming sinful habits, thoughts, and tendencies that are hindering their walk with God, hurting their closest relationships, and undermining their peace and joy in Christ.
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Killing Sin Habits: Conquering Sin With Radical Faith
Demonstrates how God through the work of the Holy Spirit and radical faith can help you conquer sin in your life. Unpacks John Owen’s work “Mortifying Sin”. Life Dominating sins, addicts, porn,alcohol
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Divine Intervention: Hope and Help for Families of Addicts
He demonstrates that it is the addict's self-centered, sinful thoughts that cause addicts to commit harmful acts towards others and themselves. Gives practical help and hope to families of addicts.
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Help! I’m Addicted
Helpful questions and teaching about addictions, life dominating sins and how to overcome them through faith in Christ. Alcoholics, drug addicts, pornography users, etc…
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Passions of the Heart: Biblical Counsel for Stubborn Sexual Sins
Takes a hard look at the passions of the heart: the underlying idolatries that lead Christians to commit egregious sexual sins. Helpful for understanding and overcoming pornography, lust, impurity.
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Addictions - A Banquet in the Grave: Finding Hope in the Power of the Gospel
The addict must face the fact that what and who he worships will control his life and that true freedom can only come through the cross. Life dominating sins, addictions, alcoholics, drug addicts,porn
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The Heart of Addiction: A Biblical Perspective
makes the distinction between a "disease" and what Scripture demonstrates is a life-dominating sin nature problem. Gives biblical tools to help you examine heart's motives at the root of addiction.
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Eating Disorders: Hope for the Hungering Soul
Offers real hope and practical help available through Jesus Christ the only One who offers real solutions to those struggling with eating disorders, bulimia, anorexia and other eating disorders.
Web Pages
Help for Eating Disorders and Distorted Thinking
This is a transcript of a talk by Kimberly Clark on eating disorders and distorted thinking. It also includes the audio of her talk. Helpful resource for those struggling and helping others.
Books
Eating Disorders: The Quest for Thinness
The way out is by understanding the thoughts and emotions that trigger your eating habits, and then taking the step of trusting God, instead of food rules and rituals.Eating disorders anorexia bulimia
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Love to Eat, Hate to Eat: Breaking the Bondage of Destructive Eating Habits
No secret recipes or magic answers will solve all your problems. On this journey you will find a God who loves you and can transform your heart and change your life. Eating disorders gluttony anorexia
Documents
Suicide Prevention Protocol
Questions to ask people who are suicidal, action steps to take and Scripture passages to use in comforting and counseling suicidal people.
Books
Self-Injury: When Pain Feels Good
Helps loved ones to understand the self-injurer's world. For those trapped by this behavior, he lovingly describes a cure that is more attractive than you think. Self-harm/cutting
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Relief without Cutting: Taking Your Negative Feelings to God
Instead of cutting--the never-ending cycle of hiding--you can go to Jesus with all of your troubles. You are precious to him. So precious that he shed his blood for you! Self-harm/cutting
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I Just Want to Die: Replacing Suicide Thoughts with Hope
Describes the various reasons you might be feeling hopeless and offers biblical advice on how to replace suicidal thoughts with hope for a future filled with love for God and others. Suicide/self-harm
Documents
The God We Pray to and Praise
List of God’s attributes with Scripture - great for encouraging people to meditate on who God is and to be thankful and grow in trusting Him. Anxiety Depression Discipleship Trusting God
Articles
Sexual Struggles in Marriage
Sexual struggles in marriage can often be a topic about which there is too much silence. Mehl points to the hope of the gospel and the help of godly mentors in overcoming these challenges. Sexuality
Articles
Will of God
Describes Biblical principles for making decisions and understanding the will of God.
Articles
Soul Diagnostic: How To Know If You Are A Christian
Davis gives us 10 ways to know if you are a Christian using various passages from the Bible. Assurance of salvation, self-evaluation of faith
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Predator, Prey, and Protector: Helping Victims Think and Act from Psalm 10
Psalm 10 guides a person into knowing God in the midst of being violated. Powlison shows us how to pray Psalm 10 and apply its principles to the lives of victims of abuse.
Documents
Pictures of God’s Forgiveness of His People
A one page worksheet to study in the Bible how God forgives His people.
Articles
Motives: Why Do I Do The Things I Do?
Whatever we trust in or love is an idol if it replaces the true God. Welch shows us many different motives that can reveal heart idols. Good tool for both the mentor and mentee.
Articles
Abuse, Neglect and Pornography as Biblical Grounds for Divorce
We will see that cases of abuse, neglect, and habitual pornography use often, though not always, fall under the biblical provisions and protections of God and may be adequate grounds for divorce.
Documents
Four Rules of Communication
This is a tool to help couples and anyone with communication.
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Forgiveness
Concise description of what forgiveness is and how to pursue it. Very clear on attitudinal forgiveness versus transactional forgiveness that ends in reconciliation. Helpful tool for counseling
Articles
When Does Forgiveness Not Lead To Reconciliation
Description of when forgiveness does not lead to reconciliation. Distinguishes between forgiveness as a unilateral promise and reconciliation as a mutual process with two way commitments.
Documents
The Enabler’s Inventory
Inventory of questions to answer to help someone understand the ways they might be enabling an addict or someone enslaved to life dominating sins.
Articles
Counseling An Addict's Enabler
Counseling for the person who might be enabling an addict. How do you know if you are enabling someone else to continue in their life dominating sin?
Documents
Describing Abuse
Concise document explaining what abuse is, giving key questions to answer regarding specific situations to determine if abuse is happening.
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Decisions - Will of God
Short document explaining the process for finding the will of God / making decisions
Articles
Relief without cutting : taking your negative feelings to God
This 10 page booklet, accessible as an article via this link, is great to give to someone who is dealing with self-harm or cutting to help them to understand the hope of the gospel for their situation
Articles
2 Lies That Must Be Defeated To Overcome Cutting
This short article by Amy Baker shows us two lies that must be defeated to help those who are cutting themselves/ dealing with self-harm issues.
Documents
How To Confess That I Was Wrong
This is a multiple page document you would want to print out to use to help someone think through how to confess their sin and ask for forgiveness and seek reconciliation.
Articles
How To Be Free From Bitterness and Other Essays on Christian Relationships
This is a collection of essays on the topic of forgiveness, bitterness and peace in relationships. Has helpful questions at the end to use for counseling/discipleship
Documents
Finding Gospel Freedom from Anger, Resentment, and Bitterness
Jones helps us think through the different kinds of anger and how to find gospel freedom from sinful anger, also dealing with resentment and bitterness.
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Battle Plan for Killing Sin
Battle plan for killing sins document. Helpful for those dealing with life dominating sins. Helpful for any discipleship and training someone to fight sin.
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Abuser Behavior Inventory
Questions to ask the abuser to help them see the extent of their abuse.
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Abuse Victim Questionnaire
Questionnaire to use with an abuse victim to help determine the extent of the abuse and how to help the victim.
Books
Loving Messy People: The Messy Art of Helping One Another Become More Like Jesus
Gives a framework and principles for personal ministry to others applying the gospel to suffering and sinning.
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War of Words: Getting to the Heart of Your Communication Struggles
Tripp gets right to the heart of our communication problems and shows how the gospel changes the way we understand and solve them. Conflict resolution
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Relationships: A Mess Worth Making
Identifies how to work through the most stubborn problems that plague any contemporary relationship - be it marriage, parent-child, or friendship. Communication, conflict, family
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Out of a Far Country A Gay Son’s Journey to God. A Broken Mother’s Search for Hope.
Their mutual story of heartbreak, confusion---and surrender to God---offers hope for anybody affected by homosexuality. This is a biography that gives hope. Good for parents whose kids are gay.
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God and the Transgender Debate: What Does the Bible Actually Say about Gender Identity?
Teaches what the Bible says about gender identity has been updated and expanded throughout, and now includes a section on pronoun usage and a new chapter addressing the transgender movement.
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Jesus and My Gender Children’s Book
Lays out a cohesive theological presentation of biblical gender. The content of each page is supported by Scripture references
Podcasts
Is Same Sex Attraction Sinful?
Heath Lambert and Denny Burk discuss same sex attraction and desire and why it is sinful.
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Helping Students with Same-Sex Attraction: Guidance for Parents and Youth Leaders
He begins by helping parents and youth leaders understand that this struggle same-sex attraction is not so very different than their own struggles with sin and suffering that they encounter every day.
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Transgender
This book gives an overview and a starting point for constructive discussion as we seek to live in a world with different values, and love, serve and relate to transgender people.
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Transforming Homosexuality: What the Bible Says about Sexual Orientation and Change
Challenges misconceptions on all sides as they show how a biblical view of same-sex orientation gives hope for profound personal change. Homosexuality, same-sex attraction
Videos
A Testimony of Abuse
Pam Gannon gives her testimony of how the grace of God can shine through the darkness of child abuse.
Podcasts
Restoration after severe abuse - episode 261
Podcast talking about how to help those who are severely abused. Episode 261 of peace works podcast.
Articles
The Abuse Pendulum (Parts 1, 2 & 3)
In the article you will be able to select part 2 and 3 to finish reading all of it. All three parts are about domestic abuse and how to respond to it and how to help victims of abuse.
Classes
Abuse in the Church
Seminar addresses the inadequacies of how churches respond to domestic abuse and violence and give principles and ideas for how churches and church leaders should prepare to help vulnerable people.
Articles
Marriage, Divorce, & Remarriage
What is God's design for marriage? What are the Biblical grounds for divorce and for remarriage? Read this elder document to get an outline of Faith Bible Church's doctrinal positions on these issues.
Sermon
Safe Marriage
What are the God-given responsibilities of believers and church leadership when marriages become difficult or even hostile? Helping victims of abuse, marriage counseling…sermon on abuse and divorce.
Books
Is It Abuse? A Biblical Guide to Identifying Abuse and Helping Victims
Learn how to identify the toxic entitlement that drives abusive behavior and to better understand its impact on victims—including children who are raised in a home with domestic abuse.
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The Heart of Domestic Abuse: Gospel Solutions for Men Who Use Control and Violence in the Home
Encourages godly men in the church to call abusive men to repentance and accountability through the power of the Holy Spirit. Helping victims of abuse.
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Innocence Lost: Rebuilding After Victimization
Encourages all who have been victimized to find their voice in Scripture, guiding them through Psalm 10’s process of crying out, expressing pain, and confessing faith. Helping victims of abuse.
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Abuse: Finding Hope in Christ
Looks at one couple, one counseling session, and one Psalm, asking the Lord to help us behold the depth of his wisdom and love that we may live triumphantly in the wake of abuse.
Web Pages
Wisdom for Big Decisions
Dan Jarms preaches on how to make wise decision from Proverbs. He gives us five steps towards making good decisions.
Articles
God’s Will & Decision-Making
Brian Sayers explains how you can know what the will of God is.
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Decision Making and the Will of God
Examines the traditional view of God's will, then sets forth a different view that more accurately reflects biblical teaching. Decision making
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Just Do Something: A Liberating Approach to Finding God’s Will
By surrendering, you'll discover that God's plan has already been revealed. Learn to love him with your whole heart, obey his Word, find hope, and see your choices through. Decision making
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Step by Step
This is a book for all of those Christians seeking guidance. Teaches spiritual discernment, wisdom, and insight enable Christians to know God's will for their lives. Decision making
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Unpacking Forgiveness: Biblical Answers for Complex Questions and Deep Wounds
Examines God's Word to form a sound theology of forgiveness, helping readers move beyond the wounds and baggage of bitterness, disagreements and broken relationships.
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Redeeming Your Painful Past: Present Grace, Future Hope
Walks through the various ways the past can influence you in the present and unpacks how the gospel brings forgiveness, healing, and hope by pointing to Christ.
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Overcoming Bitterness: Moving from Life’s Greatest Hurts to a Life Filled with Joy
Avoid the pitfalls of a bitter heart as you walk through our fallen world. When we learn to process bitterness biblically, we can move from life's greatest hurts to a life filled with joy. Forgiveness
Podcasts
Resolving Conflict on Valentine’s Day
Ernie Baker teaches about how to resolve conflict with a loved one. Discusses the PAUSE principle briefly.
Podcasts
Resolving Conflict
Pastoral approach to helping couples resolve conflict.
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Help I am in a conflict
How does the gospel impact relationships and tensions? What is the origin of conflict? What is going on in my heart that leads to my struggles with patience or irritability? Conflict resolution
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Resolving Everyday Conflict
Explore the nature of conflict and offer biblical steps to heal disputes. Discover how to see the situation clearly, overcome evil with good and be reconciled to your "enemy.
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Pursuing Peace: A Christian Guide to Handling Our Conflicts
Offers a step-by-step process for pursuing peace in ALL your relationships and a tool you can use to help others - conflict resolution. Their are accompanying worksheets to use as you read the book.
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Resolving Conflict: How to Make, Disturb, and Keep Peace
He shows us the prerequisites we must have as we go into conflict, what is at the heart of our conflict, when it is biblical and unbiblical, and how we should respond to it. Conflict resolution
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Heaven Rules: Take Courage. Take Comfort. Our God is in Control
God has a response to our suffering and trials: heaven rules! He's in charge amid any crisis. Using the Book of Daniel,demonstrates how to allow peace to reign by taking refuge in the Lord.
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God’s Mercy in Our Suffering: Lamentations for Pastors and Counselors
Helpful book for those who are going through trials and suffering, teaching them to trust God as they lament.
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Suffering: Gospel Hope When Life Doesn’t Make Sense
6 traps to avoid: awareness, fear, doubt, envy, discouragement, and denial; and 6 comforts to embrace---God's grace, sovereignty, presence, purpose, people, and rest. An offering of hope amid trials.
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When God Weeps
When life hurts, can God be trusted? What are his purposes in the face of suffering? Joni Eareckson Tada---herself a quadriplegic---knows about pain. Shows how we can trust God in suffering and trials
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Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy: Discovering the Grace of Lament
Exploring how the Bible-through the psalms of lament and the book of Lamentations-gives voice to our pain, this book invites us to grieve, struggle, and tap into the rich reservoir of grace and mercy.
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You Can Trust God
Shortened version of Trusting God. Great resource teaching people to trust God’s sovereignty in the midst of trials and suffering, depression, anxiety, and other challenges.
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Trusting God
This is a lengthy Bible study on the sovereignty of God, leading us to trust God in the midst of trials and suffering.
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Counseling the Hard Cases: True Stories Illustrating the Sufficiency of God's Resources in Scripture
Shows how the truths of God's Word can be released to bring help, hope, and healing into the lives of those who struggle with some of the most difficult psychiatric diagnoses. Bipolar depression
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God’s Attributes: Rest for Life’s Struggles
Explores 16 different attributes of God, categorized under love, essence, wisdom, and power, providing tools for reflection and correcting wrong views. Discipleship, trusting God, depression, anxiety
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A Gospel Primer for Christians: Learning to See the Glories of God
This book teaches the necessity of preaching the gospel to yourself daily as the means to walking by faith as you face any battle against sin, anxiety, depression, or any other issue. Discipleship
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Depression: Looking Up from the Stubborn Darkness
Helpful for a counselor to understand the depressed person, but not as helpful for the depressed counselee. Perspective for counseling depression.
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If I’m a Christian, Why Am I Depressed?
God's Word promises hope at the seemingly unreachable end of trials, and strength forged from adversity and pain in the new light that follows the darkness of despair. Hopeful stories for depression.
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Out of the Blues: Dealing with the Blues of Depression and Loneliness
Linear, categorical, logical and diagnostic and helpful for training how to think about depression. Defines what depression is and outlines causes and solutions to the blues caused by loneliness.
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Good Mood, Bad Mood: Help and Hope for Depression and Bipolar Disorder
Helpful book regarding how to think about depression and bipolar disorder and medications to treat them and how to help those sufferings with these things.
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A Small Book About A Big Problem: Meditations on Anger, Patience and Peace
Embark on a 50-day journey with biblical counselor and psychologist Welch to unpack your heated emotions---and grow in God's promised peace. Helping angry people deal Biblically with their anger.
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Heart of Anger: Practical Help for the Prevention and Cure of Anger in Children
Book goes beyond the external manifestations of anger and deals with the internal source: the thoughts and intentions of the heart. Helpful for parenting angry children.
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Good and Angry: Letting Go of Anger, Irritation, Complaining and Bitterness
Using God's redemptive anger as a model, Powlison helps us understand the roots of rage and encourages us to seek God's guidance in constructively responding to injustice. Helping angry and bitter
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Uprooting Anger
Focuses on changing the underlying motivations and beliefs of the heart that drive angry behavior. Helpful for discipling and counseling people dealing with sinful anger.
Podcasts
Antidote to Anxiety
For women, discusses the topic of anxiety and its various underlying heart issues by studying the Sermon on the Mount, and discuss how to find freedom within anxiety in our relationship to Christ.
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Help! I’m Anxious
carefully distinguishes right concern from unhealthy anxiety, and using Jesus words in the Sermon on the Mount shows us how we can have victory over worry by entrusting ourselves fully to the Lord.
Classes
Quieting a Noisy Soul
This is a 24 week class that is the in-depth version of “God is More Than Enough”. Wonderful resource to use with a counselee or in a class. Helpful for depression, anxiety and much more.
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God Is More Than Enough: Foundations for a Quiet Soul
Wonderful book describing the way down into anxiety and depression and how believing that God is enough is the answer to these and all the other issues our hearts face.
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A Small Book for the Anxious Heart: Meditations on Fear, Worry and Trust
Don't put a Band-Aid on your fear and anxiety; rather, learn to bring your fear to Jesus, relying on his Word.
Web Pages
Growing by Changing Our Desires
Sermon on James 4:1-9 and how our desires change through Christ so that we grow to be like Christ.
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Help! I Want to Change
Helpful short booklet on how people grow and change through Biblical sanctification. Show that the gospel is the key to being empowered to live a life that pleases God.
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Heart & Habits: How We Change for Good
Helps people establish good habits, teaching what the Bible says about your habits and how God uses your habits to help you change for good; discipleship, the heart, habits, how people grow and change
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How People Change
Jesus' work on the cross targets our hearts---our core desires and motivations---and when our hearts change, our behavior changes - helpful description of how change and growth works.
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The Dynamic Heart in Daily Life: Connecting Christ to Human Experience
provides a comprehensive view of how the heart works and how Christ redeems it; discipleship, heart, how people grow and change
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Changed Into His Image
Very thorough book on the process of putting off sin, being renewed in our minds and putting on the new life in Christ. Discipleship, the heart, how people grow and change. Has a workbook you can use
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Gospel Treason: Betraying the Gospel with Hidden Idols
Shows us how the idols we might not even recognize can still have devastating effects in our lives, effectively leading us to commit gospel treason. Discipleship, shepherding the heart, how to grow
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Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids
Equips parents to begin a comfortable conversation with kids early enough to make a difference. Explains how porn affects the brain in ways kids can understand. Helps kids turn from pornography.
Podcasts
Thinking and Theology
Helpful podcast on the importance of taking your thoughts captive. Helpful for counseling pornography addiction, lust, wrong thinking in general, and other kinds of sinful thinking.
Web Pages
Ever Accountable
This is an accountability software that we recommend for helping people fight lust and pornography enslavement/addiction.
Podcasts
Adult Children and Their Parents
As children grow up and leave the home, the relationship between child and parent changes and develops in ways that can be difficult to navigate with grace and wisdom. Parenting, adult parents/kids
Podcasts
Biblical Parenting Essentials
Helpful teaching for Biblical parenting - gives essential principles on the family
Classes
Foundations of Discipleship
In this self-paced video class, you will learn the basics of discipleship—how to walk alongside and disciple others, helping them to know and obey God’s Word and to mature in following Christ!
Web Pages
Affairs of the Mind - Help for those struggling in their thought life
This is a link to Debi Pryde’s page with lots of resources. We are recommending in particular the article on “affairs of the mind” for helping women with purity, lust, and learning how to fight sin.
Articles
Helping Women Who Struggle With Pornography
Article helping women who struggle with pornography, lust, purity.
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Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace
A shorter, very helpful tool that explains 8 strategies for using the means of grace that God has given us to fight lust; has an accompanying study guide; purity, marriage, singleness, pornography
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Passions of the Heart: Biblical Counsel for Stubborn Sexual Sins
Very robust treatment of the heart issues and practical strategies related to fighting lust – includes study questions for discussion at the end of each chapter. Discipleship, lust, purity, porn
Articles
Every Woman’s Call to Work
Good resource encouraging women regarding the role of work, whether in the world or in the home, whether single or married. Good for parenting, marriage, singleness, and discipleship.
Articles
Moms, You Are Not Enough: The Freedom of Depending on God
Explains how moms, whether single or married, are never enough on their own. All parents need to depend on God for their sufficiency in parenting their children.
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Biblical Grandparenting: Exploring God’s Design for Disciple-Making and Passing Faith to Future Generations
Gives a biblical overview of the role of grandparents, and shares research that will give students, pastors, and leaders a vision to impact the next generation for Christ. Parenting, Grandparenting
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Come Back, Barbara: A Father’s Pursuit of a Prodigal Daughter
Book offers invaluable lessons for parents and children at any age or stage-and for anyone with a prodigal loved one-showing how struggles may be faced with humility, courage, and hope. Parenting
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Reaching Your Prodigal: What Did I Do Wrong? What Do I Do Now?
Help for parenting different kinds of prodigal kids: defiant, embarrassing, intellectual, lukewarm, and religious prodigals. Parenting
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How to Love Difficult Parents: Wisdom for a Challenging Relationship
Helps adults in their relationship with their parents, including financial strain, care for their home or their health, conflict related to care for the grandchildren,or destructive relational choices
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You Never Stop Being a Parent: Thriving in Relationship with Your Adult Children
Guidance for parenting adult children from God's Word, reminding you that your relationship with your adult child can only be as deep and meaningful as your relationship with God.
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The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family
Learn how to build bonds of trust with your adopted child, effectively deal with any learning or behavioral disorders, and discipline with love. Secular author, but very helpful for parenting/adoption
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Helping Your Adopted Child: Understanding Your Child’s Unique Identity
This booklet offers help to challenges with faith as you teach your children their identity in Christ and their place in God's world. Adoption, parenting
Podcasts
After They Are Yours - Podcast Series
Podcast on adoption, giving help and encouragement to struggling adoptive parents. Parenting, adoption
Books
After They Are Yours: The Grace and Grit of Adoption
Resource offering help and hope to struggling adoptive parents, giving insight and encouragement for adoption and parenting.
Books
Keeping Your Cool: A Teen’s Survival Guide
Excellent book helping teens with their anger. Great for parenting teens also.
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Get Offa My Case: Godly Parenting of an Angry Teen
Book 2 offers practical specifics about parenting angry rebellious teens. Shows parents how to reestablish godly family leadership and helps them find the joy of the Lord, even if teen doesn’t change.
Books
Get Outta My Face! How to Reach Angry, Unmotivated Teens with Biblical Counsel
Book 1 of 2, Foundational principles & wisdom from Proverbs with practical directives that will make a difference in the life of you and your rebellious or angry teen. Parenting unmotivated teens
Books
Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens
Great resource for parenting teens with lots of penetrating questions and exciting new discussions, that open the door to a teen’s heart.
Podcasts
Are You Parenting out of Fear?
As you parent, do your responses and reactions show a trust in the Lord, his promises and goodness? Key topics: anger, control, power, manipulation, fear, worry, anxiety
Web Pages
Parenting Adult Kids
Sermon audio on parenting adult kids.
Web Pages
Parenting Girls
Chris Hamilton sermon on parenting girls.
Web Pages
Parenting Boys
Sermon audio from Chris Hamilton on parenting boys.
Articles
Lift the Heavy Burden of Shame: How to Care for Parents of Prodigals
Article provides hope and help for parents of prodigal, rebellious children. How can the church help hurting parents? Shows us how to think about rebelling kids. Parenting help for teens/adult kids
Articles
For Parents of a Prodigal: Hope through the Pain
Resource for parents of rebellious, prodigal kids. Parenting help when things look very bleak.
Web Pages
Hope & Help for Hurting Parents
Great resource to help parents of rebellious kids - parenting, counseling, prodigal kids…
Books
Child Proof: Parenting by Faith Not Formula
As an experienced counselor and an adoptive and foster mom applying the CCEF model of biblical change, Lowe uses Scripture to teach parents how to know their children and love them well. Parenting
Books
Talking with Your Kids about Jesus: 30 Conversations Every Christian Parent Must Have
Prepares you for essential conversations about Jesus' identity, teachings, death, and resurrection---and the difference each one makes. Adaptable to any age. Parenting & Discipleship of children.
Books
Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family
14 practical and gospel-centered principles to shape parenting including grace, identity, lies, authority, foolishness, and character. Great book for parents of kids of all ages.
Books
Peacemaking For Families
Great resource for marriage counseling, for parenting, for helping anyone to deal Biblically with conflict resolution. Features the 7 A’s of forgiveness and the PAUSE method of negotiation.
Books
Marriage: 6 Gospel Commitments Every Couple Needs to Make
Great resource for marriage counseling and strengthening and for engagement. Will show you how to grow a thriving grace-based relationship. Accompanying video series is good, especially #8 on intimacy
Sermon
Avoiding the Deadly Sins of Marriage
8 sermons by Brad Bigney on marriage. Great resource for strengthening marriages, for pre-marital counseling with engaged couples, and for crisis marriage counseling.
Books
Fierce Women: The Power of a Soft Warrior
Good resource for discipling strong willed women.
Books
Feminine Appeal: Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother
Helps women to grow in roles of wife and mother. Good for marriage or engagement counseling and discipleship.
Books
From Pride to Humility: A Biblical Perspective
List of manifestations of pride, to be put-off, followed by the attributes of humility, which Christians can put on through the Spirit. Helpful for marriage or engagement for husband’s discipleship.
Books
The Complete Husband: A Practical Guide for Improved Biblical Husbanding
Great marriage book to help husbands to fulfill their role. Good questions for discussion to strengthen communication in marriage. Helpful for engaged men to learn husband role.
Books
Intended for Pleasure
Affirming sex and sexuality as God-given gifts, combines biblical teaching on love, unity, and fidelity with practical and candid information. To give to engaged couples close to wedding and marriage.
Books
Tying the Knot: A Premarital Guide to a Strong and Lasting Marriage
Pre-marital counseling book for engaged or dating couples that covers issues like conflict, expectations, communication, finances, and intimacy, all focused on Christ being the center.
Books
This Momentary Marriage: A Parable of Permanence
The first chapters lay a wonderful, Biblical foundation for marriage. Great for pre-marital engagement counseling and for marriage counseling.
Books
When Sinners Say I Do: Rediscovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage
Book to use for premarital counseling of dating or engaged or married couples to help them with encountering the life-transforming power of the gospel in the unpredictable journey of marriage.
Books
Pre-Engagement: 5 questions to Ask Yourselves
This booklet gives five pertinent questions that will help couples decide whether to commit themselves to each other for life. Helpful for dating couples as they consider engagement and marriage.
Books
Holding Hands, Holding Hearts: Recovering a Biblical View of Christian Dating
Teaches what the Bible says about dating as it explores God's design in creation, the relationship fallen through sin, and the relationship redeemed by God's grace. Singleness, Parenting Teens
Books
Seasons of Waiting: Walking by Faith When Dreams Are Delayed
God uses seasons of waiting to teach us patience and make us more like himself. Good resource to encourage those facing singleness, barrenness, difficult relationships and other disappointments.
Books
Did I Kiss Marriage Goodbye? Trusting God with a Hope Deferred
Challenges single women to regard their singleness not as a burden, but as a gift from God that allows them to perform a unique role in the body of Christ.
Books
Singleness: Living Faithfully
31 day devotional about singleness. Singleness is not a problem or a waiting period—it’s a place where many of us live, and it offers unique blessings, challenges, and opportunities.
Books
Struggling Through Singleness: Help for the Journey
This booklet teaches that singleness is not the cause of loneliness and that the real solution to loneliness does not lie in marriage or in any human relationship, but in our relationship with God.
Books
Marry Wisely, Marry Well: A Blueprint for Personal Preparation
Helps single people to think Biblically about marriage and how to prepare for marriage. Great resource for singles, those who are dating, and those considering engagement.
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